1. Communication
Communication is key when it comes to looking after someone else—and yourself. We spoke to Chris Higgins, Western University professor, about the work-caregiving-life balance and communicating your needs to others.
“People need to sit down, no matter what stage of their life they’re in and think about what’s important to them,” said Higgins. “They key is communication. Too many people are trying to do it all. What does 'all' mean to you?”
2. Organization
Whether it’s appointments, medications or visits, keeping track of everything is beneficial; it's also therapeutic to write in a journal, diary or electronic app. Miriam Barry, one of last year’s Heroes in the Home said a lot of her work as a support worker depends on remembering the details.
“To be a good caregiver, I like to focus on a professional presentation by documenting behaviours, side effects, assessments and trying to make sure there’s continuity and any changes are noted,” said Barry. “I want to do what’s best for the person by listening, observing and keeping notes.”
3. Compassion
We learned in our story on “Compassion Fatigue” that there are certain types of people who are naturally caring and empathetic. Unfortunately, those who take on the toll of other people’s pain can sometimes burnout. Caregiving expert Patricia Smith said caregivers can still offer compassion without developing unhealthy and often self-destructive habits.
“In our role as caregiver, we are asked to treat others with respect, compassion and empathy,” said Smith. “An awareness of our personal boundaries is an important aspect within this concept. What will we allow in our lives, and where do we draw the line. Once we know the answer to those questions, we will have no trouble balancing empathy with emotion.”
4. Preparation
Some people may not identify themselves as caregivers, but they may suddenly find themselves in situations where they have to look after someone. That’s why preparation beforehand can help to alleviate stress. In our interview with Rick Lauber, author of the“Caregivers Guide for Canadians,” said with the number of caregivers in Canada increasing, we all need to be prepared.
“It’s best to prepare as much as possible: financially, emotionally and spiritually,” said Lauber. “Prepare in small steps by researching conditions, looking at what legal issues you could face and touring long-term care facilities. The more you can do ahead of time, the better.”
5. Resourcefulness
When someone is facing a health crisis, they want to be surrounded by a strong support team. The focus of theShare the Care™ program is to delegate tasks, so the caregiver and care recipient are not facing their crisis alone. VON Sakura House makes sure patients and families have many resources and supports available.
“We encourage families, especially with the Share the Care program, to share the responsibilities and take time for themselves,” said Volunteer Coordinator Nancy Clark. “It’s alright to ask for assistance, but it is hard to give up control sometimes.”
Check back here next week for 5 more tips for being an effective caregiver!
Rick Lauber is the author of Caregiver’s Guide for Canadians
