Children write 'savage' obituary for mother who abandoned them
A photo of the obituary, originally published in the Redwood Falls Gazette, was posted on Twitter. (@RandBallsStu / Twitter)
Published Tuesday, June 5, 2018 11:00AM EDT
The obituary for 80-year-old Kathleen Dehmlow begins much like any other.
She was born on March 19, 1938 to Joseph and Gertrude Schunk of Wabasso, Fla. She married Dennis Dehmlow in Wabasso in 1957 and had two children named Gina and Jay.
And that’s where the niceties end.
From there, the unusual tribute, written by Gina and Jay, explains that Dehmlow became pregnant with her husband’s brother’s baby. She abandoned her children and moved to California with her husband’s brother, according to the obituary.
Gina and Jay write that they were raised by their mother’s parents in Clements, Calif. They then finish the brief obituary with a particularly scathing sentiment.
“She passed away on May 31, 2018 in Springfield [Minn.] and will now face judgement. She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her,” they wrote.
A photo of the original obituary published in the local paper the Redwood Falls Gazette was posted on Twitter on Monday where it has attracted thousands of retweets and comments.
Paragraph 1: ok— Stu (@RandBallsStu) June 5, 2018
Paragraph 2: ok
Paragraph 3: wait
Paragraph 4: OH
Paragraph 5: *airplane flies overhead with a banner reading WELCOME TO HELL MOM* pic.twitter.com/ppV45htrda
Gina and Jay have some feelings about things.— kristen mccune (@InAWomansWorld) June 5, 2018
That escalated.— Jeff (@jjhparker) June 5, 2018
Jay and Gina don’t play! pic.twitter.com/oopIF3Zq3S— Tera Beljo (@TeraBeljo) June 5, 2018
Many commenters commended Gina and Jay for their obituary.
Nailed it. pic.twitter.com/i1mxh6dJoo— Laura Lee ☀️ (@derkie313) June 5, 2018
Best obit ever. Don’t hold back Gina and Jay, what’s really on your mind.— BMW DB (@acrimoniousmofo) June 5, 2018
While others expressed sympathy for Dehmlow in their posts.
This is the most savage obit and I kinda feel sad for her.— Calum Sanderson ️PRIDE️ (@calpha5) June 5, 2018
I understand what she did was wrong in paragraph 3 and 4, but that 5th paragraph? That's cold!— J.D. Elliott (@jde4zion) June 5, 2018
A number of posters related to the authors’ grudge against their mother.
If I were tasked with writing the obituary for my mother, it would sound very similar. This has been an inspiration.— LorrieMae (@LorrieCali) June 5, 2018
Change it to “dad” and I’m right there with you.— Staci1971 (@staci1971) June 5, 2018
Other notable obituaries:
Gina and Jay aren’t the only relatives to pen obituaries that raised eyebrows. Here’s a selection of some other notable tributes that attracted headlines:
'Wicked, wicked witch'
In 2013, the children of an abusive Nevada woman wrote a harsh obituary celebrating her death and condemning child abuse. The woman’s son said the children faced regular physical and mental punishment at the hands of their mother and described her as the “wicked, wicked witch.”
An obituary for bestselling Australian author Colleen McCullough attracted the ire of Twitter users three years ago when the author wrote that she was “plain of feature, and certainly overweight.” The ill-advised tribute even inspired its own hashtag #MyOzObituary.
'I was born. I lived. I died.'
Last year, a “blunt” 91-year-old Ohio woman wrote her own obituary where she warned her relatives to “wait the appropriate amount of time” before claiming her belongings.
'Killing themselves laughing'
In 2015, a Toronto man published a tribute to his mother who left behind “a hell of a lot of stuff” and asked readers to come claim in it in a tongue-in-cheek obituary.
'Leafs Nation to the end'
Lastly, even the Toronto Maple Leafs weren’t exempt from a final parting shot from one of their devoted fans. The obituary for Hamilton, Ont. man Terrance Warren Siebert took aim at the NHL team in a witty final line.
“It was Terry's last wish that his pallbearers be the Toronto Maple Leafs so they could let him down one last time,” the obituary said.